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Being 21, I was recently at a bar with some of my friends and a guy came up to me and asked if he could touch my hair. At that very instant, there was so much I wanted to say to him, so he could understand why that comment was so... annoying, to say the least. The culture of black hair is one that is very complicated, and so thick, ( no pun intended) that there was no way for me to easily explain to this man why asking to touch a black girls hair brings off negative vibes. Today, I would like to enlighten you on the matter. My hope is for people that are not black or not in this "hair culture" understand why black women have such an "obsession" with hair. Below is a clip from the Trya show. Here, she addresses a women who wants to go "all natural." However, there is a debate between the other women who are on the show. Just watch and see for yourself.

The woman in the middle struck a cord with me. Most people simply want "good hair" to fit into society. I feel that what she said about it is not socially acceptable to have your hair "out" as African American people is true. Just to make a comparison, in the past, many black people would try to "pass" as white. Their skin would be light enough for them to get into buildings and have good jobs pretending they were white. This passing phase is still continuing ( skin lighting creams) but I feel that there is a "passing" for hair as well. If your hair looks more like a white person you got the job. When you see a black man with braids or dreads, there is a certain connotation that goes with them. Only men with shortly cropped hair can be viewed as successful, or professional. When you see a women with her hair short, she is looked as the angry black women, or uneducated and too poor to "keep" her hair. Imigine: could you see President Obama or the first lady with dreads in the white house?

HOWEVER, just because  you get more jobs changing how you look to please the people around you and look more white (sad but true) doesn't make it right. Black people were not OK when white people changed their names, or made them sit in the back of the bus. They were not OK with us going to different schools, so why should we be OK for the only way that we are more accepted is if we look more like "them?" This topic isn't just about blacks in America. Because the world we live in today is more globalized, a Euro-centric view has taken place. You can see that in every place that black women are; you will find some trying to look more western, and the first and easiest way to do that is by changing your hair.


"Underneath it all I am very confident in my own hair." I love how she says that. I wish that every person who wore a weave or a perm felt that way.

 I would like to make a disclaimer: I did not cut my hair for any reasons other than I wanted to. What Raven said was amazing because she seams to be grounded in who she is.

 However, we must admit that there is some sort of double standard out there in terms of hair. If a black person gets a short hair cut, then she looks like "a fist raising," power to the people anti white, Afrocentric person. If a white person cuts their hair short, it is simply looked on as edgy or cool.

If a black girl puts weave in her hair, it is looked that she is insecure with herself, not confident, and needs to hide behind a facade of Indian hair to be confident. I disagree with this so much... I feel that many black girls have weave/perms/extensions simply because it is the culture that they were raised in. Their mom did it, and their mom did it and so on.

As black women it's important to accept each others as equals. Just because your hair is straight or you have "butters" doesn't mean that you are better ( and I have meet people who think that they are). Just because you have Indian Remy doesn't mean that you are more off than someone who doesn't have it. But also, just because your hair is naturally long doesn't make you "naturally better" then others. ( I have seen people who feel this way.) And just because your hair is natural, doesn't mean that you are intellectually smarter or better than anyone ( many people who I have seen with natural hair feel this way, too).

I know in this blog I might have come off as a bit raciest and hating on people with weaves and perms but trust me it is not the case. I just feel that the reason why there is such a "hair complex" is because people want to be more Euro-centric, and the reality is that the average boss (black white yellow or brown) judges a book by its cover Euro-centrically and the hair is one of those things they judge.

I also feel that perms and weaves are a great way to express yourself as a person. Look at Nicki Minaj and Lady Gaga. I wish the true reason that many black women were wearing weaves and different hair styles was because of fashion or for the pure love of experimenting. But the real reason is that they are not. I just wish everyone was like Raven, who understood the balance between this "hair world" and towards the future maybe people will.

I cut my hair because I'm crazy. In high school I wanted blue hair and I did that in college, but I also wanted to cut my hair, and I did that too. While my hair is short right now, I'm really not in a rush to do anything to it, I think I'm going to do this whole "all natural" thing, but no matter what I do to my hair, I want to be confident in myself. I want to wear the hair, and not for the hair to wear me. I want it to be an extension ( no pun intended) of my fashion and mood at the time, not as a default option because my natural hair is not good enough.

{Kime Says}





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